Guilty As Charged

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” 
Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV) 

Have you ever found yourself in an argument where winning became more important than the relationship?  

We've all been there. That moment when proving our point overshadows everything else, even as we sense the connection fraying between us and someone we care about. 

One of the most challenging aspects of following Jesus is learning to value others above ourselves. Our natural instinct is self-preservation and self-promotion. But Jesus models a radically different way of living–one that puts you first, even to the point of death on a cross.  

Paul reminds us in Philippians 2:3-4, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." 

This passage confronts our ego-driven tendencies head-on. The phrase "selfish ambition" describes a political mindset focused on winning at all costs. "Vain conceit" points to an empty pride that has no substance. Both are deadly to relationships. 

What would happen if you approached disagreements differently today? Instead of digging in your heels, what if you asked, "What am I missing in their perspective?" Rather than rehearsing your next counterpoint while someone else is speaking, what if we truly listened to understand? 

This doesn't mean becoming a doormat or abandoning truth. But it does mean recognizing that relationships are more important than being right. Sometimes the most Christlike thing you can do is surrender your right to be right. 

Today, identify one relationship where you've been holding tightly to your position. Practice valuing that person above your need to win. Ask questions. Listen deeply. Consider their interests as worthy of your attention and care. This small act of surrender might just be the beginning of reconciliation and deeper connection. 

Remember, Jesus didn't just talk about humility–He lived it. And through His power and guidance, you can do the same. 

Prayer: Lord, Thank You for showing me what it looks like to truly love and prefer others. Forgive me for the times I've valued winning an argument over loving others well. Help me to surrender my pride and to see others through Your eyes. Give me the courage to put relationships above being right. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.